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Create Flow in Your Life

You have likely heard the expression “being in the flow,” and that having this type of mentality can bring a lot of great stuff your way. When you go with the flow, you experience less struggle; everything seems to fall into place naturally, new opportunities open up for you, and it seems like you are in the right place at the right time. Wouldn’t it be great to have this all of the time? With that in mind, I’m sharing the tips I use to create the flow in life. There are seven components to the process:

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1. Inspiration

The first component is Inspiration. You have to be inspired by what you do and the direction you go. You must establish a connection with reality such that it involves your core desires and provides you have the chance to contribute something good to the world.

You might name it “a calling,” or a purpose. Or, it might just be as simple as feeling happy and energetic when you think of what you do or where you are heading. Have you ever looked closely at the word “inspiration”? It has two parts “in” and “spirit.”  Just a thought.

2. Health

The second part is Health, and it involves having a sufficient amount of Energy. Health is your life fuel. When you get into the car and have a destination to go, you need to make sure your car has enough gas in its tank, right? And, the better car you have, the higher quality of gas you get, and the better service center you take it to. So, it is essential to treat yourself well.

Firstly, get enough sleep. For some people, it is six hours, while for others it might be nine hours. If you are among those who need 9 hours, you are not alone. Then, consider what you’re eating and the amount of exercise you do, as well as the amount of fresh air you get every day. Anything that you do to keep yourself healthy, rested, and full of energy will help your car (body) move well. You don’t want it to stop in the middle of the road and miss the opportunities passing by!

3. Attitude

Attitude is the third component. What I mean here is a very broad; another way to say it is “a positive attitude on life.” Think of life as a mirror. What happens when you smile to the mirror? What happens in your reality reflects your expectations on a deep subconscious level. Okay, yes, bad things can happen to any person, and they have their reasons, but if we talk about day-to-day life, we get what we project and expect to happen.

4. Acceptance

Fourth on the list is Acceptance. We cannot know everything for sure; the “big plan” is out of our human awareness. Fighting with reality will only stop the flow. Instead, we can only transform what we own in life. So, accept what is out of your control and move on.

5. Ability to Say ‘No’

Number five is the Ability to Say “No” when something doesn’t feel right. In the last section, I wrote about accepting circumstances that you cannot change as they are out of your sphere of influence. But, there are many other situations when you do have a choice.

Your flow happens when you feel right and uplifted. So, why allow relationships, events, and other occurrences that don’t feel right, bring your life down? Sacrifice never made a human happy (except if you chose to be a saint, of course). Remember, an unhappy person never made other people happy.

6. & 7. Curiosity and Open-Mindedness

The sixth and seventh components go together: Curiosity and having an Open-mind. The world around us is active and much wiser than us. Go with the ways of the world, acting as a partner rather than a sort of dictator. Avoid a dictatorship where you must have your own way all the time and are not open to other opinions. Being pushy and demanding suppresses flow.

Partnering with the world around you will help you to explore the unlimited possibilities around you. There are numerous unpredictable ways to channel the flow into your desired direction. But you must actively do so! Take action.

I want everybody to be in the flow with their lives. If you ever feel stuck, though, just email me, and we can do a coaching session to explore what is holding you back. You can read more on Life Coaching here.  With the right guidance, you can be in the flow of things and enjoy a more prosperous life, just as you deserve!

 

http://elephantacoaching.com/create-flow-in-your-life/

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Success strategies for women. Can we be both feminine and powerful?

Women nowadays can be successful at anything as well as be happy and fulfilled depending on the strategies we adopt.

For many decades women have been fighting regarding the rights to be protected, get involved in politics, get the education we desire, get divorced, to have or run our businesses and to make other personal choices.

In most developed countries women nowadays have equal rights, and we are well supported and protected by the law.

The problem is that during that fight we had to put on the armor and adopt the tough business world strategies developed by men.

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As a result, women got everything but lost the primary factor – the right to be feminine. 

Please, do not be misled by the false image of femininity, for it is not the same when compared to the qualities of a real woman. Femininity is not about long lashes, emotional underdevelopment, excellent cooking abilities, sexy body image or helplessness.

True Femininity is about being resourceful and creative, being able to execute our talents in business, in politics, in art, in projects, – and all of that with ease, flow and enjoyment.

We’ve got the right to do whatever we want, but we do not know how to do it our way.

The challenges that the modern woman faces are different from the ones encountered in the past. Most often, the real problems are not put into words, discussed and  addressed.

The challenges are as follows:

  • How to stay resourceful even as she climbs the corporate ladder,
  • How to trust her intuition and use both intuition and logic,
  • How to communicate effectively so to be heard and to influence,
  • How to value herself and express the value she brings to the table,
  • How to better understand her strengths and form a unique leadership style that is both influential and enjoyable to her.
  • How to stay in the game in the face of difficulties even if there is no more energy left to succeed in the harsh business world,
  • How to maintain her health as well as be able to bear children,
  • How to have more than enough energy to nurture both business and her family, and so much more.

When we act in the world of business built by men, and we proceed to ignore our feminine nature by adopting the behavior of men – we feel stressed, drained and live like robots. Our men become either too aggressive or irresponsible and weak; our children don’t get enough love, and the world suffers from too much of cynicism.

It is time to rescind the feminine energy.

Feminine energy is not a preference but a requirement for getting the desired success while, at the same time, preserving our health as well as everything that is of value to us.

Let’s look at two different success strategies:

Men’s success strategies Woman’s success strategies
Chasing the achievements Fulfilling the potential, enjoying the process
Feeling of self-worth after the achievements Feeling of self-worth regardless the achievements
Setting goals Forming inspiring vision
Conquer Affiliate
Compete Cooperate
Shooting the short term goals Staying focused on the long term success
Efforts, overcoming struggle and fight Acting effortlessly and creating streamlined flow
I must I want
Being rigid Being flexible and adaptable
Use only facts and logic Listen to intuition
Mechanical use of people Nurturing relationships and people
Creating structure and control Creating the right aura

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We can adopt different strategies depending on the circumstances.

One thing we should keep in mind as women is that when we chase achievements without enjoying the process or when we fight, even if it’s the silent struggles that take place inside our heads, – we ruin our bodies and our psyches, we start feeling exhausted as a result of loss of excess energy. Even if we end up getting the result we hankered after, is the price we paid to get the results worth it at all?

The modern business world adopts soft strategies nowadays and this is because we have begun to understand how important the other side of the equation is.

The purpose of this article is to remind us about the alternative ways of living and being successful in a way that is more natural to us as women as well as to find ways of living a more sustainable lifestyle.

When we accept the womanly qualities we have and take our uniqueness as an advantage and not as a disadvantage that we need to hide or get rid of, then we get an access to the powerful resource within us which is gifted unto us by nature.

True femininity is about the connection with our internal nature and power that allows us to do what with want more effectively and effortlessly.

 

http://elephantacoaching.com/success-strategies-for-women/

 

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Why Personal Change is Not Easy?

It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” Theory of evolution

Why it is hard to change? What does it take to make long-lasting change? Why do we say we want change but in reality resist it? Why is change essential to continually feeling happy and satisfied with life? A life coach in Houston, TX understands these concepts and can guide you toward finding the best answers for your unique self.

Have you ever been told that you need to change your behavior, attitude or mindset? Or, that you need to be more patient with your subordinates to be a more effective manager? Did someone tell you that to be a better spouse you need to be more honest, show more of your emotions or improve how you manage your emotions? Many people who come to me as a life coach and executive coach in Houston, TX tell me these experiences have happened to them.

Although at first you may have met these suggestions with inner resistance, after thinking about it did you agree that it would be good to change? Perhaps you’ve tried to change your temper or behaviors. You might have had some success in doing it too but, after some time, did you notice you returned to the previous patterns?

If any of this sounds familiar, then a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX may help you, depending on the area where the change is needed!

Why Personal Change Can Be Difficult?

Coaching sessions with a professional coach involve encouraging change. But, what is the mechanism of the personal change? What do you need to consider when trying to improve yourself and create a better version of “you,” as a leader, spouse or parent? These are questions that a professional coach, such as a Houston TX life coach, can help you to answer.

The reality is that changing habits and behaviors is not easy to do without the custom guidance of a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX. This is because of how our brain and nervous system operate. Habits and behavioral patterns are set chains of neuron connections in our brain that act without our conscious involvement.

We do not have to think about our behavior; instead, it just happens. This is a great help to us as it enables us to then focus our energy on other important activities. We humans are a combination of set patterns. Not too long ago, scientists thought it is impossible to change how people behave or think. That is, until neuroscience became a recognized field in the 20th century and revealed that all the neuro chains in our brains are flexible.

What was the consequence of this finding? As a quality executive or life coach in Houston, TX would tell you, it showed that with conscious and consistent effort, one can change any behavior, develop any skill, form a different outlook on life and start to both feel and act differently.

It is through inner work, encouraged during coach sessions, that we can change the physical settings of our neurons, which are responsible for how we show up in the world and how we feel about ourselves. Change is difficult because it requires altering the physical setting of neuro chains within the brain. This is the basis of what a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX understands.

It requires time, dedication, motivation, and consistent effort until the new physical chain of neurons is set. We know this event occurs when we can observe the effortless new behavior or when a new attitude becomes natural to us.

So, How to Change?

First, you need to understand WHY. If someone told you that you need to change, you perhaps did not rush to put this change into action. The natural reaction when we are told to do something new is to resist because our brain is used to going through the known pathways, and outside advice won’t change the mental tracks. This is why the brain will resist, ignore, fight or critique a change force that comes from outside. Thus, we need to answer the question ourselves – WHY do I need to change? When the brain finds sufficient reasons and motivation, then the process of finding new neuro connections will begin. Doing it on your own can be challenging, though, so a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX can be your partner in self-discovery and self-observation.

 

You need to SEE the desired results. Defining the desired outcome, with as many details as possible, will help the brain set the map of what to form. If you say, “I want to stop being irritated by stupid questions” – you do not give the brain an alternative change state to create. In this case, the only direction your brain sees is “being irritated.” Instead, you might want to say “I want to be patient, curious and helpful when people ask me questions even though they might sound stupid in the beginning.” Again, professional coaching support from an executive or life coach in Houston, TX will help you, quickly identifying the new destination for your subconscious brain.

When the Old Habit Is Fighting for its Place…

Habits, behaviors, and attitudes have been formed to serve us in the past, as any reputable Houston, TX life coach or executive approach will tell you. The longer we practice a particular behavior, and the more incentives, rewards, and successes it brings us, the stronger the neuro connections are in our brain.

Breaking such a chain is comparable to a death and can seem too frightening to succeed without the assistance of a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX or elsewhere. For example, say you came from a military background where being strict and tough was welcomed, and this is what allowed you to achieve success in the military career and manage people. In many companies today, collaboration and inclusion is more valued and expected, so you as a manager need to listen, understand, motivate and collaborate equally with your subordinates if you want to receive a promotion. Developing this skill will look challenging and even frighten you because for many years earlier the opposite skill helped you to survive and be successful.

But what is hard is not impossible. Think of it as expanding your skill set. You are not getting rid of the skills of being a tough, direct manager (in fact, there might be future situations where this skill set will be required). Instead, you are adding new skills of being collaborative, inclusive and listening to different opinions, and helping to form the best overall strategy.

Again, developing new skills will be easier and faster with a support of a professional coach.

Call me today at 713-569-0860 between 8:00 am and 6:00 pm Houston time, or write me email to schedule initial conversation around your situation.

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Do I need a Life Coach?

Are you dissatisfied with the current life situation? Do you want more, better or different from what you have now: relationships, self-realization, health, career, business and other life adventures – then it is time for Life Coaching.

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Dissatisfaction is a good sign. Discomfort tells us that something needs to shift so the life continues to progress.

Have you experienced an unexpected change and seek support to handle new circumstances? Change is hard, it is not easy. Our conscious brain is guarding our “already known” sense of reality; it wants stability.  Life Coaching will help you get unstuck, adapt and see new perspectives for yourself.

  • Are you feeling stuck and not sure where and how to move forward?
  • Do you want better relationships with yourself, friends, family, colleagues, partners and life as a whole?
  • Do you feel that this is the time for change but something is holding you back?

If your answer to any of these questions is “yes,” as your life coach I can help you gain insight into what exactly what you want and how to obtain it.

What is Life Coaching?

Life Coaching is a process that helps you to move from where you are now to where you want to be. Once you become clear on what you want out of your life and career you will be able to identify the resources (internally and externally) that will make your vision happen. I as your life coach will also help you stay committed to yourself and your vision so you get results you want.

Because Life Coaching is a fairly new area in the field of personal development, it is very important to distinguish coaching from other services. Life Coaching is not about giving an advice, training or ready solutions. It is not about telling you what you should or should not do. It is an equal partnership, where you are responsible for the decisions/actions you make and where your coach is a professional thinking partner that helps you to re-connect with yourself on a deep level, overcome inner obstacles, develop an action plan and stay in the flow.

read more here on what is coaching and how coaching is different from other similar services.

Where is the value in Life Coaching?

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In coaching process you go deep exploring your goals and what you truly desire. You will discover your biggest barriers to getting what you want – limiting beliefs and old thinking patterns that do not serve you any more as well as promises you might have made to yourself in the past that are not relevant to your life now. You will learn how to replace them with new empowering statements that will serve your success. Once the limiting belief is identified – a great amount of energy will be released that was used to hold that belief in place. You will feel relieved, resourceful and inspired.

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You will also discover and shift unconscious patterns that have led to either your failure or your success, so that you can create more of what you want in your life. Once you “cleaned the house” like this and set a strong foundation within yourself, the goals you create will be much more easily attainable. Your coach will also challenge you to look at your goals from the very heart of your being to see if they are truly yours or they belong to your parents, partners, friends or someone else. You might be (some clients become) amazed by how you were fooling yourself all these years chasing someone else’s dream. You and your coach will create a practical plan for your life with easy to take steps along a path that is now clearer, brighter, and belongs to you.

When a sudden change happens we tend to protest and not agree with reality. When the first wave of emotions is over it is essential to start thinking in a productive way on how to move forward, see the broader picture and maybe get to know yourself better.

Do I need a Life Coach?

At some point in life we need mentoring to be inspired and guided by someone who is more experienced and successful in the area we want to succeed; or consultant to be given a professional advice in the area where we are missing out information and expertise; or teacher/trainer to be taught new skills; or psychological therapy to get over the past traumatic experience. And at some point in life we need life coaching to gain clarity on the situation we are in and understand where to move next, to get to know ourselves better and live a meaningful life.

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Call me today at 713-569-0860 between 8:00 am and 6:00 pm Houston time, or write me email to schedule initial conversation around your situation.

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