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Success strategies for women. Can we be both feminine and powerful?

Women nowadays can be successful at anything as well as be happy and fulfilled depending on the strategies we adopt.

For many decades women have been fighting regarding the rights to be protected, get involved in politics, get the education we desire, get divorced, to have or run our businesses and to make other personal choices.

In most developed countries women nowadays have equal rights, and we are well supported and protected by the law.

The problem is that during that fight we had to put on the armor and adopt the tough business world strategies developed by men.

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As a result, women got everything but lost the primary factor – the right to be feminine. 

Please, do not be misled by the false image of femininity, for it is not the same when compared to the qualities of a real woman. Femininity is not about long lashes, emotional underdevelopment, excellent cooking abilities, sexy body image or helplessness.

True Femininity is about being resourceful and creative, being able to execute our talents in business, in politics, in art, in projects, – and all of that with ease, flow and enjoyment.

We’ve got the right to do whatever we want, but we do not know how to do it our way.

The challenges that the modern woman faces are different from the ones encountered in the past. Most often, the real problems are not put into words, discussed and  addressed.

The challenges are as follows:

  • How to stay resourceful even as she climbs the corporate ladder,
  • How to trust her intuition and use both intuition and logic,
  • How to communicate effectively so to be heard and to influence,
  • How to value herself and express the value she brings to the table,
  • How to better understand her strengths and form a unique leadership style that is both influential and enjoyable to her.
  • How to stay in the game in the face of difficulties even if there is no more energy left to succeed in the harsh business world,
  • How to maintain her health as well as be able to bear children,
  • How to have more than enough energy to nurture both business and her family, and so much more.

When we act in the world of business built by men, and we proceed to ignore our feminine nature by adopting the behavior of men – we feel stressed, drained and live like robots. Our men become either too aggressive or irresponsible and weak; our children don’t get enough love, and the world suffers from too much of cynicism.

It is time to rescind the feminine energy.

Feminine energy is not a preference but a requirement for getting the desired success while, at the same time, preserving our health as well as everything that is of value to us.

Let’s look at two different success strategies:

Men’s success strategies Woman’s success strategies
Chasing the achievements Fulfilling the potential, enjoying the process
Feeling of self-worth after the achievements Feeling of self-worth regardless the achievements
Setting goals Forming inspiring vision
Conquer Affiliate
Compete Cooperate
Shooting the short term goals Staying focused on the long term success
Efforts, overcoming struggle and fight Acting effortlessly and creating streamlined flow
I must I want
Being rigid Being flexible and adaptable
Use only facts and logic Listen to intuition
Mechanical use of people Nurturing relationships and people
Creating structure and control Creating the right aura

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We can adopt different strategies depending on the circumstances.

One thing we should keep in mind as women is that when we chase achievements without enjoying the process or when we fight, even if it’s the silent struggles that take place inside our heads, – we ruin our bodies and our psyches, we start feeling exhausted as a result of loss of excess energy. Even if we end up getting the result we hankered after, is the price we paid to get the results worth it at all?

The modern business world adopts soft strategies nowadays and this is because we have begun to understand how important the other side of the equation is.

The purpose of this article is to remind us about the alternative ways of living and being successful in a way that is more natural to us as women as well as to find ways of living a more sustainable lifestyle.

When we accept the womanly qualities we have and take our uniqueness as an advantage and not as a disadvantage that we need to hide or get rid of, then we get an access to the powerful resource within us which is gifted unto us by nature.

True femininity is about the connection with our internal nature and power that allows us to do what with want more effectively and effortlessly.

 

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Coaching During Times of Organizational Change

Coaching is a must-have tool to accompany any changes within an organization.

As an example, a professional coach can facilitate the implementation of a new organizational strategy by helping leaders and key people realign personal goals and motivation with the new strategy, as well as ensuring behavioral changes in long-lasting ways and supporting the implementation of new initiatives.

Coaching helps make sure that the change is sustainable over time, that the transition is smooth rather than rocky and that the process minimizes the stress levels of the participants.

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How is That Possible?

Coaches are experts on how the brain works and how to facilitate progress by improving the quality of thinking. They support people in overcoming natural resistance to change by helping them build new neuro pathways in the brain and form new realities.

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Change can be very challenging. Emotional change, in particular, usually accompanies the organizational transition. It requires hardwiring of new learning through insight and action. Coaches are the perfect people to have around to facilitate this process of learning through insight.

Coaching Through Change

A coach helps to identify what needs to changing, as well as supporting the management and implementation of change. The human brain innately does not like change; instead, it wants stability. To change is, therefore, difficult and it requires extra effort. Most people experience stress when dealing with change and especially uncertainty that change brings.

Contrary to popular belief, having a clear vision of where your organization is heading and a great plan is not enough to change the old ways that people work and think. Creating change and telling employees about it is only one part of the process; for change to be long-lasting, it must embed into the minds of all people across the organization and have the supported guidance of a good leader. A coach can help both top leaders and key people responsible for managing others to be all that they envision being, for the purpose of introducing change successfully in your company.

Types of Coaching through Change

Executive coaching can help leaders think more strategically about the change. An executive coach can ask questions of leaders that they make them self-reflect in ways they may not have done for some time, if ever. These questions may be ones that team members feel awkward about posing themselves.

Team coaching provides an opportunity for team members to explore their feelings about the change, including their issues with it, as well as enjoying the benefits and growth that come with change.

The major benefit of coaching is that it helps to embed the change into the life of the organization, into people’s minds and into behaviors too. It helps to make the change sustainable over time, less painful, and with minimal stress to the participants.

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Consider energy your most important resource

In your life, you have learned to value time, education, and money. You were taught how to manage and use them effectively, starting from childhood. But, little attention has likely been given to another important resource that everyone has and often just spends. I’m talking about ENERGY, which has three main forms: physical, emotional and mental.

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Why is energy important?

 

Think of energy as a fuel. When you have sufficient energy, you have the ability to get work done quicker and better than without this capacity. And that’s not all! Energy enables you to invent, discover, and be creative. You can receive and give inspiration, lead better, and dream bigger. Your energy level can be the difference between simply living and being fully alive.

Energy is not something to spend but instead a resource to invest. When you invest energy wisely, you get the most benefit from it.

Think now, how do you invest your energy in people, situations, and things?  How you invest energy can multiply this important resource and allow you to enjoy your life even more as well as grow your business, share your enthusiasm with others and stay in the flow.

 

Ways to manage your energy:

 

  1. Try to eliminate people and activities that drain your energy, leave you feeling empty and less powerful, or even struggling emotionally.

 

  1. Identify people and activities that lift you up, inspire you, create a good synergy with you, and empower you.

 

  1. RE-charge constantly. Feed all of your “bodies”: physical, emotional, and intellectual. Rest, laugh and learn.

 

  1. Manage your energy. Be very attentive to how you feel and what causes you to feel negative and depressed or happy, focused, and free.

 

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What else can you do to manage your energy?

 

  1. Maintain the right focus. Your focus sets the direction where your energy is invested. Choose wisely!
  1. Give yourself breaks during the day. Allow yourself to rest and recalibrate to maintain the energy level.
  1. Know your most productive times of the day, whether it is the morning, afternoon, or evening. Develop your own routine.
  1. Know your distractions, such as the telephone, emails, or people.
  1. And, finally, learn to value your energy!

 

If you want to take this conversation further and discover ways how you can better manager your energy and create greater life balance, feel free to contact me.

 

Types of energy:

Physical energy – Take care to maintain your energy levels by practicing good nutrition, exercise, relaxation, and sleep. Doing so will also help you manage your emotions well and focus your attention.

Emotional energy – Enhance the quality of your energy by controlling your emotions, even when there are external pressures. To do so, you must first understand how emotions feel during different work-related situations and how emotions impact these occasions. When you feel positive, you are more likely to perform and lead better than with negative energy.

Mental energy – Pay attention to the kinds of thoughts you have or what self-talk is going on in your head. In other words, what is your subconscious saying? Mental energy also refers to how focused you are. Again, being self-aware of your thoughts, being able to identify and reprogram disempowering beliefs, and being clear and focused on what matters to you increasing your level of mental energy, as well as the overall quality of being.

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Why Personal Change is Not Easy?

It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” Theory of evolution

Why it is hard to change? What does it take to make long-lasting change? Why do we say we want change but in reality resist it? Why is change essential to continually feeling happy and satisfied with life? A life coach in Houston, TX understands these concepts and can guide you toward finding the best answers for your unique self.

Have you ever been told that you need to change your behavior, attitude or mindset? Or, that you need to be more patient with your subordinates to be a more effective manager? Did someone tell you that to be a better spouse you need to be more honest, show more of your emotions or improve how you manage your emotions? Many people who come to me as a life coach and executive coach in Houston, TX tell me these experiences have happened to them.

Although at first you may have met these suggestions with inner resistance, after thinking about it did you agree that it would be good to change? Perhaps you’ve tried to change your temper or behaviors. You might have had some success in doing it too but, after some time, did you notice you returned to the previous patterns?

If any of this sounds familiar, then a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX may help you, depending on the area where the change is needed!

Why Personal Change Can Be Difficult?

Coaching sessions with a professional coach involve encouraging change. But, what is the mechanism of the personal change? What do you need to consider when trying to improve yourself and create a better version of “you,” as a leader, spouse or parent? These are questions that a professional coach, such as a Houston TX life coach, can help you to answer.

The reality is that changing habits and behaviors is not easy to do without the custom guidance of a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX. This is because of how our brain and nervous system operate. Habits and behavioral patterns are set chains of neuron connections in our brain that act without our conscious involvement.

We do not have to think about our behavior; instead, it just happens. This is a great help to us as it enables us to then focus our energy on other important activities. We humans are a combination of set patterns. Not too long ago, scientists thought it is impossible to change how people behave or think. That is, until neuroscience became a recognized field in the 20th century and revealed that all the neuro chains in our brains are flexible.

What was the consequence of this finding? As a quality executive or life coach in Houston, TX would tell you, it showed that with conscious and consistent effort, one can change any behavior, develop any skill, form a different outlook on life and start to both feel and act differently.

It is through inner work, encouraged during coach sessions, that we can change the physical settings of our neurons, which are responsible for how we show up in the world and how we feel about ourselves. Change is difficult because it requires altering the physical setting of neuro chains within the brain. This is the basis of what a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX understands.

It requires time, dedication, motivation, and consistent effort until the new physical chain of neurons is set. We know this event occurs when we can observe the effortless new behavior or when a new attitude becomes natural to us.

So, How to Change?

First, you need to understand WHY. If someone told you that you need to change, you perhaps did not rush to put this change into action. The natural reaction when we are told to do something new is to resist because our brain is used to going through the known pathways, and outside advice won’t change the mental tracks. This is why the brain will resist, ignore, fight or critique a change force that comes from outside. Thus, we need to answer the question ourselves – WHY do I need to change? When the brain finds sufficient reasons and motivation, then the process of finding new neuro connections will begin. Doing it on your own can be challenging, though, so a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX can be your partner in self-discovery and self-observation.

 

You need to SEE the desired results. Defining the desired outcome, with as many details as possible, will help the brain set the map of what to form. If you say, “I want to stop being irritated by stupid questions” – you do not give the brain an alternative change state to create. In this case, the only direction your brain sees is “being irritated.” Instead, you might want to say “I want to be patient, curious and helpful when people ask me questions even though they might sound stupid in the beginning.” Again, professional coaching support from an executive or life coach in Houston, TX will help you, quickly identifying the new destination for your subconscious brain.

When the Old Habit Is Fighting for its Place…

Habits, behaviors, and attitudes have been formed to serve us in the past, as any reputable Houston, TX life coach or executive approach will tell you. The longer we practice a particular behavior, and the more incentives, rewards, and successes it brings us, the stronger the neuro connections are in our brain.

Breaking such a chain is comparable to a death and can seem too frightening to succeed without the assistance of a life coach or executive coach in Houston, TX or elsewhere. For example, say you came from a military background where being strict and tough was welcomed, and this is what allowed you to achieve success in the military career and manage people. In many companies today, collaboration and inclusion is more valued and expected, so you as a manager need to listen, understand, motivate and collaborate equally with your subordinates if you want to receive a promotion. Developing this skill will look challenging and even frighten you because for many years earlier the opposite skill helped you to survive and be successful.

But what is hard is not impossible. Think of it as expanding your skill set. You are not getting rid of the skills of being a tough, direct manager (in fact, there might be future situations where this skill set will be required). Instead, you are adding new skills of being collaborative, inclusive and listening to different opinions, and helping to form the best overall strategy.

Again, developing new skills will be easier and faster with a support of a professional coach.

Call me today at 713-569-0860 between 8:00 am and 6:00 pm Houston time, or write me email to schedule initial conversation around your situation.

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